Much to my surprise, I understand that women think I am a Stud! Not that it matters much to me because I have been out of circulation for a very long time. It really doesn’t matter because I am talking about characteristics of a stud anyway. According to Urban Dictionary, a stud is a really cool guy or girl. Everyone looks up to them and wants to get with them. The ladies in particular! What makes me so cool?
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An alternative definition is a guy who is popular with the ladies and who may also be attractive-looking, but not always. What does this have to do with personal finance? In addition to personal finance, careers, goals and managing money, I enjoy writing about personal achievement. You can consider this topic as fulfilling a variety of topics or just interesting or controversial enough to start a discussion. I do like to be provocative!
What makes me think I am a stud? One reason is I bought a fuel efficient car! Yes, I bought a Prius C and I am a stud! According to Motors.co,uk, “British women consider drivers of small eco-friendly (Prius or Nissan Leaf) cars are some of the most conscientious and intelligent studs out there.” The differences between purchasers of certain cars can relate to personality differences. Male buyers of expensive cars may be overcompensating with a car and were arrogant.
I cannot judge, however anyone who buys an expensive car which goes down in value is foolish! I would rather invest my money than watch my assets deteriorate. Choice of car is just one characteristic! Choice of car may indicate poor judgment or decision making whether you financed it or not. This decision is not clear cut because there are reasons for everything we do. It is not right or wrong, but indicative of their judgment Is the car new or a few years old? Did you pay cash or finance it? Price is the last factor and should relate to how much you can afford. There are more factors when it comes to what you can afford such as other debt, annual salary and savings.
How much you can afford is indicative of your judgment based on many of the factors I described. It is either attractive to women or it reveals your ego or you are cheap. Either way, it is how you justify it will convey a mature attractive man or someone who is making up for some personality defect. Remember the survey says fuel efficient small cars impress women much more than a flashy expensive car. Some personality traits such as arrogance of more expensive cars may make you less attractive.
Men think spending a lot of money will make them more attractive to women. Not true! Be careful because being cheap does not make you more attractive either. Women like confident men who are decisive. Women like it when men are creative and interesting when they plan dates. A romantic evening does not have to cost a lot of money. A romantic picnic or candlelight dinner at home can easily trump an expensive dinner! You could picnic at the beach and go for a romantic walk at sundown.
Do clothes make the man? The wrong clothes can bring down the man. If you are a stud, you need to dress well, but you do not need to spend a lot. You can shop online or at discount stores. Women like to see men put together well, it can be khaki pants, loafers and a collared or polo shirt. Total cost $50-100. Fit is more important than how much you spend. Looking good does not take a lot of money! Mix cheap with expensive or just reasonably priced clothes, but it all works.
Men do not need expensive jewelry to attract women. Most men do not wear a lot of jewelry anyway, but a classic watch can be just enough. You can get away with something inexpensive (less than $100) or not, but don’t go overboard! Some men do not wear any jewelry and do not need a watch thanks to a cellular phone. Personally, I think it looks silly to constantly pull out your phone to find out what time it is, but it is a choice.
A confident mature man approach women differently! They treat women well by focusing on them. All it takes is a little communication, it is a little like how a successful man approaches business situations. Women find that very attractive. Learning about what you date likes and interests are important to successful communication with a woman. It shows your personality and humor. Men are very attractive to women if you can make them laugh. Humor is sexy! Learn how to entertain your date.
Women will date ordinary guys because women are less visual and look for depth in personality and other attractive characteristics. Guys, develop your personality and you can be a stud too. Take an interest in the woman and you will be more successful. Consider it part to your personal development. If you can hold a conversation with a woman, you could become a better businessman or successful. Particularly, mature men usually are more confident and genuine with women.
I never thought of myself as a stud although I always worked hard to attract women. When I was dating in college, I did not have money so I was creative with what I had. I worked with my strengths like personality, humor and creative dating. Circumstances motivated me to find solutions or was it just hormones? Whatever the reasons it helped me attract women. As an older and mature man, I realize that these characteristics make me sexier and more attractive. I still do not care because I am happily married.
What do you do to make yourself more attractive to women? Ladies, what do find attractive in men? I know that women find older men more attractive when they have money, but I am sure that is not all of it. Men who are successful are always more attractive to women. Success seems to add to your confidence, judgment and decision making. I do not want to leave out power. Powerful men that is men who exert influence over an organization, owning your own business or elected officials are also more attractive to women.
What makes me a stud? I find people interesting and enjoy finding out more about them. I am successful and confident which is always attractive. I plan and achieve my goals which adds to my confidence. Although I have been married a very long (45 years) time, I am still a stud to women. Being attractive does not mean you are looking to date or cheat. It just means you have the characteristics women find important. Many of these characteristics make you popular which can help you be successful. You can be too, but you need to develop your skills. Are you a stud or do you want to become one?
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Are you a stud or do you want to become one?