Control is subjective! Control is the power to influence or direct people’s behavior or the course of events. Taking control of your life is much more personal and involves the financial, personal, social, physical fitness, work and personal relationships and career portions of your life. Are you one of those people who just complains about things rather than doing something about it?
This article would end right here if the solution were as simple as just take action. Most people do not do things for a variety of reasons. Some people believe that cannot succeed. My classes have students who failed so many times they simply give up before they try. The record you play in your head is important! You have to believe you can succeed and it starts with making an effort. If you fail, make a choice to either pick yourself up and keep trying or get help to succeed.
Your past does have an effect on your future. You could take two people and expose them to the same situation and one will keep trying where the other will give up. It starts with past success or failure! I think it is much more than that. You need people around you to encourage and support that effort, particularly when you are young. Experiences like sports, board games and other social activities are opportunities to learn these qualities. Do you surround yourself with supportive people?
You cannot take control of things you think you are not interested in. You handle money on a daily basis, yet you do not take the time to learn how to use it more effectively. Why not? Many people use the excuse of not understanding it. These are the same people who can do complicated procedures or difficult jobs. These same people will overspend although they fully understand they are doing it. They also do not take control of the debt they accumulate because of the out of control spending.
My favorite is the complainer who just complains about everything and does nothing about it. If complaining were the goal, they are successful. The problem is complaining does nothing for you. It does not matter what you are complaining about either. It may be your job, career, a friend, ex boyfriend or girlfriend, boss, coworker, teacher or something else. When you finish, it will remain the same unless you do something about it. What are you doing about your problems?
Stop making excuses!
It is a form of excuses! You make excuses because you are afraid to work through the problem. Problems are difficult because that is why they call them problems. I polled an AP Calculus class the other day to see how many people liked math. To my surprise, less than half the class said they liked math. I wonder why they are taking AP Calculus if they do not like it. I explained that math is important to develop an elite mind. It helps in problem solving, decision making, logic, judgment, reasoning, critical thinking, organizational skills and money.
Attitude is everything!
Taking control of your life requires personal qualities such as discipline, determination, positive attitude, goal setting, principles or values, strong convictions and confidence. Many of these qualities are derived from achieving success or accomplishing goals in school or elsewhere over time. Without some success in life, it is difficult to know what to do. It is one of the reasons we need positive role models in our lives. You can learn how to be successful by learning from these role models.
How can you take control of your life? It starts with learning what you do not know so you can do what you need to do. It can be about investments, personal finance, budgeting, mortgages, home or car buying. Many people have difficulty with their personal relationships. Divorce statistics prove that point! 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Consumer debt is high! The only winners there are the credit card companies and the banks. Do you have control of your personal finances?
There is an obesity problem in the United States! Roughly thirty-five (35%) percent of American are obese which is thirty-five pounds over a healthy weight. Taking control of your physical fitness is very important to your overall health. There are so many diet books; you would think we have a solution. The problem is people start diets or join health clubs and do not stick with it. Change is difficult! We eat food everyday and yet we do not have control over our eating.
When it comes to eating, spending or even a career, you should make small changes to reach your goal. When I wanted to lose forty (40) pounds, I made small changes in my eating habits. I started by substituting some of the high calorie items with lower calories foods. This works with everything! Early in my career, I wanted to cut down on my spending for lunches. My solution was taking my lunch to work once a week. I liked it and added another day and before long I did it five days a week.
You can keep complaining about everything and blaming others for things or you can do something about it. Making small changes is the best way to change your habits and achieve your goal. Taking control of your life is as simple as taking action, but it requires making good choices in what you change. Simply going on a diet may not work, but replacing a calorie rich dessert with a lower calorie one may help you reach your goal. Making a diary of your spending is the first step to gain control over your spending!
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