I Gave Up My Dream!

by Krantcents · 34 comments

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I gave up my dream, but I am not a quitter!  What was the dream?  Did I want to be on Broadway or become a movie actor?  No, performing on stage or playing someone else is just too scary!  Besides, I am not that creative or skilled to be good at it.  You have to want it more than life and willing to work at anything until you make it.  Besides constant rejection is not appealing to me!  So what changed?

School

Everything and nothing!  College and business school raise your goals.  I remember creating an organization chart when I was in my twenties with five (5) divisions.  I think in those days, we called this organization a conglomerate.  Each division had separate goals, products or services and its own business plan.  Was I just setting a strategy or really setting goals?  Did I have the experience and knowledge to make these goals a reality?

Goals are not enough

Simply setting goals and creating a plan to achieve them is sometimes not enough.  You need knowledge or the people who have the knowledge to help achieve the goals.  Skills and knowledge are just as important as the vision to get you there.  Steve Jobs had the marketing skills and vision, but he needed Steve Wozniak for the knowledge and technical skills.   Few individuals have all the skills necessary to achieve all their dreams.

Dead ends?

In school, you experiment or try things with little consequence.  In real life, you can waste a lot of time looking for things that ignite your passion and never find them.  As you get older, you realize that time is the most important commodity you have.  So I wasted a lot of time looking for the things I thought I wanted.  What did I do?  I started looking in a different direction!  I met an entrepreneur who changed my goals.

Passion?

He owned an apartment building and I learned about income property.  He taught me what I needed to know and I took to it like a duck to water.  It had all the intrigue of a good mystery and I felt comfortable with it.  I went to “school” and absorbed the information like a sponge.  I found my passion!  Was I ready for this opportunity?  I don’t know, but I started to learn and became ready as fast as I could.  Was I giving up on my dream or just changing course?  I think it was my passion helping my dream.

Reflection

As a much older person, I reflect on the changes in my life differently now.  Knowledge and experience helped me recognize an opportunity, although I did not have the experience in that industry.  I wasn’t going to let a little thing like experience stop me!  I spent hours/days/weeks/months learning and loved it.  It is that simple, you find something you love to do and you will be good at it.  After all, I found my passion!

It sounds so easy, but I spent years looking for it!  I looked everywhere from friends to family, but nothing seem to make sense.  I read lots of biographies of famous successful people, but I wasn’t starting a billion dollar company.  I wasn’t a builder so I would have to do it another way.  I decided to find the people I needed and let them help me find what I wanted.  It helps to ask really good questions!

Most important skill

Maybe that was my most important single skill!  Asking good questions usually gets good answers.  It is amazing how helpful everyone is when you ask questions.  Lots of people contributed to my success by just being helpful.  I talked to everyone from property owners to real estate agents.  I interviewed many agents until I could find one I could work with.  Read everything I could get my hands on and more.  I found my passion and learned what I needed to succeed.

Final thoughts

I always thought I knew what I wanted to do, except I lacked the specifics.  Finding my passion was circuitous and I don’t think I was in control until I found it.  Exploring the things I thought I wanted to do was as important as crossing off the things I didn’t.  When the best opportunity presented itself I was ready to adapt.  Although the shortest distance between two points is a straight line, you need to know the points first.  Start early, so you don’t waste time.  Did I give up my dream, or did I just change it?

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AverageJoe August 22, 2012 at 7:03 am

Asking great questions…what a great concept! Sometimes I think we’re all so busy talking that nobody listens long enough to come up with good questions.

Krantcents August 22, 2012 at 7:45 am

I made a career/life asking questions! The other side is listening, we don’t really listen whether to learn or hear what the other person saying. Everyone should listen at least 50% of the time.

Lance@MoneyLife&More August 22, 2012 at 7:14 am

As people grow goals change. As long as you didn’t change because you doubted yourself and you did change because your desires changed I think that is completely normal and acceptable!

Krantcents August 22, 2012 at 7:47 am

I think it was pursuing the fantasy. I needed to remain open to opportunities that I had never seen before.

Gillian @ Money After Graduation August 22, 2012 at 7:31 am

My goals have changed many times throughout school, and now after school. Each time they change I become happier with what they are, and they seem more attainable because they are more specific. In high school, getting a good job was a goal. Obviously there is much more to my career goals than that now ! Good article.

Krantcents August 22, 2012 at 7:49 am

Thanks, our goals change, but you should change because you were exposed to more information or new things. You may even call it evolution!

Joe @ Retire By 40 August 22, 2012 at 8:21 am

Your goals can change. It’s only natural as you get older and learn more about life. I don’t think you gave up your dream. You are still pursuing a new career and are having a great life. I think evolution is the right word too.

Krantcents August 22, 2012 at 9:09 am

You’re right, my dream changed over time because I did not have specific goals. I recognized an opportunity (income property) when I met my colleague who was into apartments.

Michelle August 22, 2012 at 8:48 am

My goals have changed as well. Never did I think that I would have the position that I have now.

Krantcents August 22, 2012 at 9:11 am

Experience and age change our goals. I know I discover opportunities that take me to new goals, but still stay true to my vision of what I want to do.

TB at BlueCollarWorkman August 22, 2012 at 9:50 am

Maybe you gave up your dream and changed it. I think it’s great to dream, but people talk less about the reality of dreams. Dream big, but then consider the real world. There actually are limitations — the key is knowing them! It sounds to me like you got real with yourself and then went for the dream that was really yours and really possible!

Krantcents August 22, 2012 at 12:14 pm

I think my dream was too vague or I just took advantage of the opportunity! In either case, I pursued my passion and ended up making a lot of money. I think recognizing opportunities is the key!

Kathleen @ Frugal Portland August 22, 2012 at 10:44 am

Do you really think you gave up your dream? It sounds to me like you didn’t give anything up and you haven’t lost anything.

Krantcents August 22, 2012 at 12:16 pm

You’re probably right, but it was different from where I started out. I think I constantly evolve and take advantage of opportunities that present themselves.

Veronica @ Pelican on Money August 22, 2012 at 10:50 am

I’ve been into the business of online real estate for a while but never made it into the physical one. I’m curious, is that something that is profitable long term? I’m looking forward to reading everything you’ve ever posted to learn more about acquiring real estate.

Krantcents August 22, 2012 at 12:22 pm

Thank you, now is a great time to invest in homes and rent them out. It is a great time because home values and interest rates are at a historic low. With 20% down, you could probably break even, if you buy it at the right price.

maria@moneyprinciple August 22, 2012 at 12:21 pm

Fully agree with the importance of asking good questions; this is an art form which once mastered pays off handsomely. It doesn’t matter one little bit whether you direct your questions to others or to yourself – a good question is already halfway to an useful answer.

Krantcents August 22, 2012 at 12:24 pm

I use my skills at asking questions as a negotiating tool. It puts pressure on the other guy versus making me feel uncomfortable. I find it works very well.

DC @ Young Adult Money August 22, 2012 at 6:27 pm

Now that I think about it, I sometimes make too narrow of goals. I want x,y, and z, and the way I’m going to get it is by doing a,b, and c. What if a,b, and c don’t work out??? It’s important to be open to new things and keep learning.

Krantcents August 23, 2012 at 6:53 am

Absolutely, I think I revise my tasks all the time to help me reach goals. It comes from monitoring your progress and adjusting your efforts.

Roshawn @ Watson Inc August 23, 2012 at 5:49 am

Like you indicated. Dreams change, and that’s perfectly normal. It is good to relinquish dreams that no longer inspire you. Otherwise, you are chasing yesterday instead of tomorrow.

Krantcents August 23, 2012 at 6:54 am

I like the way you said that! I find I am constantly adjusting to new opportunities and hopefully I stay true to my overall goals.

Jason Clayton | frugal habits August 23, 2012 at 10:12 am

I think you have to always be prepared to change your dreams (or goals). I’m certain that many people reach their dreams, and then created new ones. There is something about the “human spirit” that always wants to be achieving something more… Well – at least that is true for me.

Krantcents August 23, 2012 at 12:57 pm

I constantly change and adjust, but I try to stay true to my ideals. Experience prepares you to find new opportunities. M original dream was not clearly defined so I grabbed the opportunity that I has some passion for. It worked out very well!

Joe August 23, 2012 at 10:38 am

GREAT POST. I also like giving up on my dreams and justifying it after the fact.

Krantcents August 30, 2012 at 1:36 pm

I am not justifying anything, my point was my dream was poorly defined. I had enough experience and knowledge to realize I came across an opportunity in income property.

Mo' Money Mo' Houses August 23, 2012 at 6:13 pm

As I get older I’m starting to realize how goals can change and that’s ok and sometimes you’ll end up doing something you never though you would. It’s kinda what makes like exciting and unexpected!

Krantcents August 24, 2012 at 6:58 am

Part of it is age and part is experience. My opportunity occurred when I was 31, not old by any means.

L Bee and the Money Tree August 24, 2012 at 7:05 am

I think everyone should have goals and dreams-it is what keeps us human. However, I think too much of childhood is spent telling kids to pick a dream etc. etc. when it may not even be what they are good at…or even practical really.

I thought my dream was to become a famous actor-but really I just wanted to create something that would last beyong my time here. SO I became a writer. Because you think you’re “giving up on your initial dreams” it can be totally heartbreaking. It took me well into my twenties to realize that it’s ok for things to change, but I had to learn that on my own.

Krantcents August 24, 2012 at 7:32 am

I agree, I have had 7 careers and I have been working on my 8th (blogging/writing) for 2 years. As humans we evolve as we gain experience and skills.

eemusings August 25, 2012 at 8:28 pm

“Did I give up my dream, or did I just change it?”

Fantastic point – I know my dreams have definitely changed, and while it might look like quitting to others, it’s genuinely a matter of shifting internal priorities.

Krantcents August 26, 2012 at 6:53 am

As long as you stay true to your values and overall goals, there is nothing wrong with small changes. We evolve over time and opportunities occur and we need to take advantage of them.

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