How to Have A Frugal Valentine’s Day without being Cheap!

by Krantcents · 16 comments

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Valentine’s Day is a pressure filled time for men. For some, it is a celebration of romance and love, but there is pressure to do something special for their someone in their lives. Doing something special usually means, flowers, dinner, candy or some special gift. You can easily spend hundreds of dollars on meaningless things or experiences! Celebrating Valentine’s Day does not have to cost a fortune! 

Valentine’s Day is the busiest, highest sales and delivery volume day of the year. Let’s face it, it is so easy to go online or call a florist to have some flowers delivered. I can see what he flowers will look like online and schedule delivery at my wife’s work to get maximum attention. Why deliver flowers at work? You want your special someone to be admired by other workers. The bigger the arrangement the better! This is the easy solution! You need to be creative and do something else. 

Making dinner reservations is another easy task. I can call or make a reservation online ahead of time and even get something out of it myself. Easy and fun for both parties. There is no harm doing what everyone else does, but you are not making it very special. Typically, restaurants are very busy and you get a crowded restaurant meal with less than great service or you could do something else. I admit, I was one of the people who made reservations because it was so easy, but no more.  

Candy is another easy choice! If you know the person well, you know what they like. Whether it is the expensive Godiva chocolates or some other brand. Then you can get the variety one or two pound box of milk or dark chocolates. I always went much further to actually pick the particular pieces, she liked. Whether it was See’s Bordeaux, Cashew Brittle, or  light chocolate truffle, it was special for her. Candy is always better when there is less and personalized. 

Valentine’s Day is so close to other big gift giving holidays! It is one of the reasons, I do not approach it the same way. Some people look for your typical gifts which is never right for everyone. Valentine’s Day is not supposed to just a splurge on presents. Some people give engagement rings on Valentine’s Day. Personally, I think that may be the least romantic because it may be expected. I love the element of surprise versus what is expected.

What should you do?

Personalize, Personalize, Personalize – Since I am married for such a long (45 years) time, I can only draw on memory of what I did for various past girlfriends. In the beginning, I had very little money anyway, but I always tried to make it special for my valentine. I would give a small book of poems, have a picnic, visit an art gallery for a private showing, or something she would enjoy. The key to happiness is finding what the other person enjoys rather than a easy choice.

Flowers? – Flowers do not have to be expensive. In every major city, there are alternatives to the high priced flower shops. It may be the flower (wholesale) mart, supermarket, or just picking them yourself. Roses are traditional, but you can find other flowers choices to impress. One of the reasons roses are expensive because you usually buy them by the dozen. A less expensive approach may be a bouquet of a variety of flowers which is less expensive.

Candy? – Who said you have to buy candy by the box anyway! I think it is much better to buy just the pieces my valentine would like. It shows I have put more thought into the gift and there is no wasted candy. You save money and you look very thoughtful. Candy or chocolates are sold by weight and it adds up quickly. Four chocolate dipped strawberries is more romantic than the Walt Whitman sampler!

Be original! – There is formula to show love for someone! Find what is special for them. It could be downloading a song or something trial, but it shows you car. There is a tendency to spend money, but it is not nearly as good as finding something meaningful to your valentine. I do the flowers, gift and dinner, but I make it special. I get flowers I know she likes in a nice arrangement from a small grocery chain for$ 6-8. I buy dinner from our favorite restaurant, but split the dish because there is so much food. I always get our favorite dessert of tiramisu but share it. I take the dinner home and fire up the fireplace and light candles for our dinner. Intimate and more enjoyable than a restaurant. Our gifts are special, but personal. It may be sharing an experience of going to a museum, art gallery, walking along the beach, or cooking a meal.  

Final Thoughts

Don’t just follow the formula of making reservations, buying flowers and candy for Valentine’s day. It shows no thought and it can be very expensive! I know this is mostly directed to men and how they can impress women on Valentine’s Day, but ladies don’t just sit back and expect all these things. You can also show your special someone that you care. It can be a massage, a meal, his favorite candy or just some event. Valentine’s Day seems to be just for the ladies, but I think it should be a time to show their love for each other.  Happy Valentine’s Day.

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{ 16 comments }

Money Beagle February 11, 2014 at 9:04 am

Good stuff. I think that the important thing is finding a unique way to remind your significant other of your love and care for them.

Krantcents February 11, 2014 at 4:09 pm

You’re are right, a little thought is much moe meaningful than just spending a lot of money. Besides, you can save a lot of money in the process and be romantic too.

The First Million is the Hardest February 11, 2014 at 7:05 pm

Thankfully my fiance has never made a big deal out of valentines day. I usually grab some flowers, we order take out and that’s the extent of it. My wallet is always thankful!

Krantcents February 11, 2014 at 9:13 pm

Good for you! Valentine’s Day has become huge thanks to commercialization.

Nik @ Midlife Finance February 12, 2014 at 7:10 am

Dare to be different is what I am also suggesting for those who are planning special this coming valentine. Stay away from the traditional flowers, chocolates, etc. There are no elements of surprise with those ways. Think of something that is memorable, composing a song for her, singing for her in front of the crowd even though your singing voice is really terrible, and a lot more. Be creative, sometimes the weirdest thing or effort is much appreciated compared to material gifts. :)

Krantcents February 12, 2014 at 10:59 am

Good ideas! I believe you should always think of the person you are trying to please. In that way, your creative ideas will always please that person.

Troy February 12, 2014 at 12:50 pm

Happy (soon to be) Valentines day to you too. I think doing something (an event) is far more memorable than the classic Valentines day dinner. Maybe take your significant other to watch a game (if they’re a sports fan) or snowboarding!

Krantcents February 12, 2014 at 4:15 pm

This year, I plan to take my wife to an event she has wanted for a long time. I am taking her to t he J. Paul Getty Museum.

Marvin February 12, 2014 at 2:14 pm

My wife and I have come to an agreement that I have to do a couple “honey do’s” around the house for valentines day then we’ll go out to eat for lunch.

Krantcents February 12, 2014 at 4:16 pm

Valentines’s Day is for both of you! What is she doing for you?

Don @ How You Can Find Love February 14, 2014 at 7:21 am

The personalize part is the key here. I found that the more thought I put into the gift to make it meaningful to her, the more she loved it. A $5 gift from the heart that had meaning was so much more loved than a $100 pair of earrings because there was no thought put in to them.

Krantcents February 14, 2014 at 10:23 am

I think this is always true! The value of being thoughtful is priceless.

Alex February 17, 2014 at 11:18 am

There is pressure often on the man, but I’m not sure if this occasion is even relevant. Love is for 365 of the year, I should think.
It all depends on the couple’s mutual agreement but generally I’d say valentines is a bigger sham than Christmas, and is nothing more than an indirect stab at the lonely. Of course there’s nothing wrong with the personal effect of enjoying an evening with your partner.

In our grandchildren’s lifetime things may change to include both partners to be thoughtful and responsible at valentines. I’d personally scrap it since it is neither genuine or has anything to do with the real St.Valentine. Then again not everyone is as miserable as me! :D

Krantcents February 17, 2014 at 1:44 pm

I too dislike the pressure to do whatever on a particular day. It is one of the reasons, I decided a long time ago to approach it differently.

Alexis Marlons February 21, 2014 at 3:37 am

My loved one being able to spend quality time with me is more than enough gift for a valentines day. I won’t ask for flowers or any material things.

Krantcents February 21, 2014 at 6:56 am

Time is the valuable gift! I love it when my children want to spend time with me!

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