To avoid any confusion, I did say to marry for money. Is money more important than love? Finding your soul mate is not easy. You already know what kind of person you don’t want, but you keep attracting those kinds of people. You know the ones, they drink too much, spend too much, unfaithful, controlling or just not good for you. If you have rich friends, you are more likely to meet other rich successful people.
If you are not married, you probably want to be. Or maybe not! A good marriage is wonderful and bad one can wreck your life. Picking the right person is not easy. After all it is an emotional decision and takes a lot of work. To make it even more difficult, it is between two (2) humans with all their flaws. This is not an article about how to find the right spouse or have a happy marriage. It is an article about why you should marry a rich successful person and where to find them.
Where Are They?
School
Before they were doctor’s wives, they were college sweethearts. The ultimate marrying rich are doctor’s wives. Many educated, rich, successful people find their spouse in college. The very first step to finding rich, successful people is in school, it may be college or some other training facility. Most successful people seek out additional training. It may be a degree or certificate program or taking classes just for fun. The better the school, the more likely the graduates will succeed. If you already graduated college, take additional classes in something interesting. It may be worth your while.
Volunteering
Where do rich, successful people go for fun? You can find them everywhere and many not so common places. You could run into a rich successful person at the supermarket, in the fresh produce section or the bank making a deposit. Rich successful people take care of ordinary things too. It is unlikely you will meet them because they are doing what is necessary and not socializing. You need to find other situations to meet people. It may be a class on wine, charity fundraising, volunteering at the museum or another organization to meet like minded people. Find the opportunities that interest you.
Travel
There are single tours, cruises and travel organizations and much more. You can travel with friends to faraway places or nearby locations. Spring Break takes on a different definition. Don’t think of the usual places. It may be Spring skiing, jazz concert, music festival or Renaissance Pleasure Fair to name just a few. Go where rich people play, it may be Southampton, SXSW (South by Southwest Film Festival), Sundance Film Festival or Summer/Winter Olympics. These kinds of events attract rich people with these interests.
Sports
What sports do you play? Certain sports attract rich people more than others. You could play basketball with George Clooney or Barack Obama, but that is unlikely. It is much more likely to meet rich successful people skiing at Monmouth, Squaw Valley, Deer Valley or Aspen. Take tennis, golf, dance, archery, sailing, surfing, skiing, fencing, polo, or horseback riding. Although the lessons may yield opportunities, playing these sports or activities will provide opportunities to meet rich successful people. These sports take money to play and will attract people who have these interests and the money to pursue it. You can be a spectator as well and meet other people who have the same interests.
Choices
In New York City or Los Angeles, I would go to where rich successful people eat, live work and play. It may mean Wall Street or Beverly Hills. Have you thought about going to have lunch where these successful people do? Spend time in the right places where successful people may spend their time. Maybe you will be noticed! Don’t be a stalker and don’t expect anything. Be friendly, happy and approachable, maybe you will make a connection. Don’t forget shopping in stores that supply equipment for sports, hobbies or avocations of rich successful people.
Final Thoughts
The message should be very clear, go where rich and successful people would work, live, play, shop, or eat. Just being there improves your odds! This is a form of networking, but you are not looking for a job. Is love important? Absolutely! Don’t marry someone just because they are rich and successful. It is no harder to find somebody who is rich and successful and fall in love than just finding someone to love. I am not suggesting finding a Sugar Daddy or Sugar Momma. You do not have to get married or fall in love to use people. Rich successful people know how to make money and that is a skill that is very valuable. You can just as easily marry a rich person as not. If you are with rich successful people, you are more likely to find the love of your life. Marry for money and love!
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It never hurts to fall in love with a rich person. Just make sure you fell in love with the person and not their money. I never considered this but it is defeinitely too late for me now.
Falling in love is tricky! I am just suggesting look for it in a different place. In other words, it does not have to be random.
Hahaha, I wish I read this when I was young. It’s too late for me too. At least Mrs. RB40 is educated and is a hard worker.
Let’s face it, we are influenced by genetics and environment. Rich successful people know how to do it, why not exploit that.
I would agree. You need to fall in love with the person and not their riches. However you could go looking for a rich person and see if there are any you fall in love with I guess.
I am already happily married so looking is pointless at this stage.
Most people marry friends of friends or people you meet. I suggest to meet to look in the right places.
hahaha! Amazing. While this is a great post, in all seriousness, my wife didn’t have any school debt when we graduated so she was “rich” in a way.
In the larger picture rich people understand money much better than other people and more importantly how to make money.
Marry for money! What an incendiary title! I love it. I think you’ve hit the nail on the head: to marry someone who values money in a way you do, hang out where successful, responsible people will be found.
I picked the title because it is provocative, but I think it is a reasonable or rational argument. Perhaps, it sounds a little too manipulative to some.
Sound advice as usual; in my next life I’ll test it and (hopefully) marry for money. I agree that the people one associates with are a measure of what he/she is or shall become.
I usually like to be with successful people who just happen to be rich. I find them more interesting and I think I relate to what they do. It started a long time ago when I started private school.
I’m glad my wife didn’t read this years ago!
So inversely you are saying you shouldn’t go to bars, casinos, car races, or stay holed up in your parents basement playing video games if you want to marry rich.
What I am saying is go where the rich people go! It could be a bar, but it will probably be in a better neighborhood.
One of the books I am reading now is ‘Influencer – The Power to Change Anything’ and one of the things they suggest to change behavior is to make the undiscussable, discussable and that is what you are doing here!
Hanging around rich people may also provide examples of money earning behavior to you so you can get rich.
That is one of the reasons, I surround myself with rich successful people.
I am dating a college aged girl who is about to graduate.
I am established in my career and arguably a little ahead of her in life, but … I am dating a college aged girl.
I’ll survive.
Are you dating a “significantly” younger woman? Good for you!
Some great words of advice Larry, and this works perfect for me as I’m still on the younger side…I think
Going to regroup and put work this into my grand plan
What do you have to lose? You may have to step up your game though. Rich and successful women want the same thing, rich and successful men.
Marry for money or the great likelihood that your partner will be successful. Some young folks aren’t completely proven yet, but the signs of success; hard working, diligent, well educated etc. are hard to miss!!!
I know women find confidence and success very attractive in men. I think those elements are important in women too.
This is funny conceptually! I love that you approached this serious topic with tongue in cheek. I think one consideration among the most successful is that people want to be around them for their success and wealth rather than for who they truly are. Sometimes it is hard to tell whether someone is genuine, and perhaps that’s a good basis for being inconspicuous to a certain extent
I do agree some people do seem to attract the wrong people on consistent basis, regardless of their bank balances.
For the rich and famous, it is difficult to tell if someone likes them or their money. I find rich successful people more interesting and always gravitated to them. I was probably conditioned early with successful parents and going to private school.
And if you can’t marry for money, marry someone whose personal view of money is aligned with yours…You need to be in the same ballpark, otherwise you have a recipe for resentment. Maybe not during the blush of a new relationship or during your double income no kids years, but when time and money become tight you need to have the same goals and view of the world…
Very true! Why settle for the same ball park though? I am suggesting to marry up in class.
Wow Larry, a spicy post of yours!
IT’s what every parent wishes for our sons and daughters yes? To be happy and marry rich?
It’s true, rich friends have a lot of rich friends. Some are out of the stratosphere wealthy. I wrote about it w/ my friend Robert Mailer. That said, I just want to play tennis and have fun.
Rich or not, it’s all good. It would be nice to have a wealthy spouse, but I’m happy to make my own wealth!
Sam
I drew on my inner funny writer for that one! Hopefully more of the same to come now that I no longer have my series. Riches or wealth may be just the knowledge of how to do it versus high net worth.
Interesting post, I liked it.
I do think that whether you marry for money or not, it’s better if you both have more similar values about money. If one’s a spendthrift and the other a penny pincher, that can cause problems. If one is so loaded that dropping $5,000 on face cream doesn’t even phase them, while the other is in the middle class… well, you see what I mean. 
Values are very important! I think everyone wants to be successful, why not find someone who knows how to get there?
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